What Kind of Friend Are You?

“Faithful are the wounds of a friend; profuse are the kisses of an enemy.” ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭27:6‬

Q: What kind of friend are you?

A: As a woman of God and follower of Christ we should be willing to sometimes say the hard truths that wound the heart of our dearest friends and sisters in Christ out of love and grace. This is for their benefit, for their correction so that they can turn away from their sins and grow in a deeper relationship with our Heavenly Father. Or . . . Are you a “friend” only acknowledging your friends and sisters in Christ with a kiss from the enemy? Ignoring their sin and allowing them to continue in their self-destructive behavior because the idea of confronting them about it is just too uncomfortable? 

Wouldn’t you want to know if you were doing something wrong? Being led astray? Me: ABSOLUTELY! Think about your closest friends . . . 

Q: When was the last time they called me out when I was sinning?

Q: When was the last time I called them out when they were in sin?

If we deeply love our sisters and friends in Christ. We will humbly seek the Lord in prayer, and lift them up first to Him before going to them. We must ask God to give us wisdom, knowledge, guidance and the words to speak for the necessary conversation with our beloved friend. And to have clarity of mind, to remove our own thoughts and opinions from the situation so that we may disciple them through the sin problem properly. 

We are to judge righteously.
Through love for our friends, these circumstances would require us to do so. 

“My brothers, if anyone among you wanders from the truth and someone brings him back, let him know that whoever brings back a sinner from his wandering will save his soul from death and will cover a multitude of sins.” ‭‭ James‬ ‭5:19-20‬

Our culture is very “love heavy” . . . “I love Crème brûlée”, “I love red Roses”, “I love diamonds”, “I love…”, “I love…”, “I love…” If you deeply and truly love your friends and sisters in Christ, prove it to them. Don’t let them wander, don’t let them do damage to their spiritual health. Be their advocate! Love them. Embrace them. Encourage them. Challenge them.

“Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.” ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭13:20‬

BE • WISE – Secular friends will always tell their friends that they will never question anything they do no matter and will be there no matter the consequences. 

If you are a follower of Christ, YOU are held to a higher standard. As a Christian, you WILL support, you WILL love, you WILL probably make someone mad . . . But, you WILL also not watch your friends stumble off the narrow path without doing something about it. Christian friendship is not about “judging” how the world defines it. We don’t look at someone’s bright yellow shirt from half a mile away and scream, “that looks ugly!” – This is not righteous judgement. It’s all about the ability to look at someone’s sins and see past their faults and brokenness because of God’s glorious and redeeming grace.

Someone who truly loves you will exalt Christ at all times. They will encourage you, build you up and help you to live a holy life before God. Be ready for tough conversations and sometimes uncomfortable moments. If you can’t handle that, then you’re not really wanting a FRIEND but an ACCOMPLICE.

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Terah Nichole

I am passionately pursuing the Lord & write about what reflects Jesus Christ, the Word of God and our faith. Be encouraged to proclaim the pure Gospel of Christ in your daily life also.

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